“When I have learnt to love God better than my earthly dearest, I
shall love my earthly dearest better than I do now. In so far as I
learn to love my earthly dearest at the expense of God and instead
of God, I shall be moving towards the state in which I shall not
love my earthly dearest at all. When first things are put first,
second things are not suppressed but increased.”
–C. S. Lewis